Question by : How can I stop hating her so much? 10 POINTS for a little outside looking in insight?
This is going to be long, but please bare with me.
So I’m 16, and yes, it’s pathetic, but my nearly 30 year old brother and his newly wedded nearly 30 year old wife live with me, with my parents. That’s a messed up situation in in of itself. My brother works in retail because he didn’t finish high school and his wife basically babysits retarded adults all day long. She takes them to the movies and to the mall and whatnot. It’s really, really hard work.
The problem is that I hate her. I really, really hate her, and I know that’s wrong, and I’m quite certain my life would be a hell of a lot easier if I didn’t hate her. She’s extremely obnoxious (she weighs about 300 pounds, no exaggerating, and I weigh 100 and she’s always telling me that I look “sickeningly skinny” while she’s popping laxatives and over the counter weight loss meds, puffing on a cigarette.) She has the footsteps of a wild bison and she burps quite frequently, loudly, without excusing herself, even at the dinner table. She’s making fun of me all the time for spending so much time in my room, because I’m doing homework and studying to finish high school. She doesn’t think I should finish high school. I’m a straight A honor student and she thinks I should just drop out and get my GED. I told her that I’d like to become a commercial airline’s pilot, and she will literally LAUGH at me and tell me that this is something I can’t do. She doesn’t think I can do anything I want to do or I’m aspiring to become. Whatever. Her opinion, but being her age and all, I think she should be mature enough to keep it to herself. She’s extremely jealous of me and I think that makes her purposely act more annoying around me than everyone else. She’s always running into my room (like, literally every 15-30 minutes when I’m home) to use my make-up and my perfume and everything she can that’s mine. I’ll tell her that I don’t want her using my make-up because you don’t share make-up and she goes on a rampage about how I just think I’m better than everyone. Her job’s really only part time. She’s scaring my friends away. I just really, really hate her and I’m not sure if I need more of an explanation or not. Yeah, my parents had a late baby. It sucks. But um, just the way they both mooch off of my/our parents really pisses me off all by itself. She watched me curling my hair yesterday morning and asked me, “Who are you trying to be?”, ummm…. me, with curly hair? I’m sorry if it’s offending but she truly is the epitome of white trash. She acts like she knows everything that’s “cool” or whatever and gets onto me for not watching Glee and not wearing colored skinny jeans? She wears fucking colored skinny jeans and she’s massive and UGH. This isn’t the core of the problem. I realize that. Now I’m just venting. She has the mentality of a 12 year old and she’s intolerable, and worse, it’s like she’s trying to buddy up with me all the time and my parents keep telling me that “it’d really be nice of you to try to hang out with her every now and then ’cause she doesn’t really have any friends”, which is true, but um, I’m not 30, and I really have no interest hanging out with any 30 years old, and not her, fordamnsure.
So, how can I stop hating her so damn much?
Opinions and whatnot would be greatly appreciated as well.
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Answer by Yalayna
First of all I give you props for not doing what I would do and punch her in the mouth for the things she says.
I honestly think she is jealous of you, 16 and have your entire life ahead of you, take it your in good shape and great in school and you have incredible dreams/goals for yourself. Maybe she is mad because she is in her 30′s and having to bunk at her in-laws house.
As far as not hating her so much, make her sit down and talk to you and tell her how you feel about how she is treating you, if she doesn’t want to listen then there isn’t really anything you can do. Grin and bare it so to speak. Good luck and really hope she listens to you.
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You could tell your parents in a really hurt way, start acting depressed, then your parents will believe you. Then that problem is done and out of the way. Next, tell your brother what a beast his wife is, however much he gets offended. Then, lock your room door or get someone from the phone book to literally get you a lock. Your parents already understand so they’ll let you. Then that fat thing won’t bother you that much. Maybe start intruding on her like she does on you, maybe more. I wouldn’t advise insults or anything as she could hurt you literally and I don’t want that cos of my stupid advise, she could hurt your brother but I doubt that. Good luck!